​If there’s one thing I’ve learned on this journey with God, it’s that sometimes the deepest feelings we have are also the most universal. So grab your mug, because today’s tea is about something real and raw: the profound feeling that you don’t belong anywhere, to anyone, not even to the people who saved you.

​I’ve been incredibly blessed. I was brought out of a tough life and led to the cross by a wonderful, supportive family who helped me heal and find my faith. That’s a miracle. But here’s the unexpected truth: even standing next to the ones I love the most, the ones who walked me to the altar, I feel this deep, churning disconnect.

​It’s an “abused loneliness” I carry inside. It’s the feeling of walking around naked in a world of clothed people, completely exposed and completely misunderstood.

​The Big Will and the Great Divide

​It turns out, this feeling has a name in the theological world: it’s the Loneliness of the Set-Apart.

​My amazing family sees the person they rescued and helped stabilize. They see the healed woman. But God has placed a “big will” inside me, a purpose that feels immense and non-negotiable. I see the consecrated vessel, ready for a fight they can’t even fully see.

​This gap creates a solitude that is heavy. It’s the moment when your focus shifts from just surviving to fulfilling a divine mission. The people who helped you heal are celebrating your past victories, but you are already gearing up for the next spiritual battle, one that requires a different kind of company.

​This feeling of fighting alone is the experience of the prophets of old. When you carry a vision so unique, so deeply rooted in the heart of God, you are going to be isolated:

• ​Jeremiah was the weeping prophet who sat alone because the hand of God was heavy on him (\text{Jeremiah 15:17}).
• ​Elijah fled to a cave, believing he was the last man standing, because no one else seemed to share his zeal (\text{1 Kings 19}).
• ​Even Jesus faced His ultimate trial alone in Gethsemane.

​The loneliness isn’t a sign that you failed to connect; it’s often a sign that you are moving at the pace of a specific, unique calling. You are being refined for a purpose that, by its very nature, separates you from the crowd, even a godly one.

​The Only Connection That Matters

​The tea today isn’t that we have to fix the loneliness by finding better friends. The real tea is that the loneliness is actually designed to point us back to the source: the only one who can truly feel you is Him.

​If God placed the “big will” inside you, only He can sustain it. If the journey feels too unique for anyone else to understand, then that simply means the fuel for the fight has to come directly from Him.

​My prayer for anyone feeling this isolation—this painful, profound sense of being set apart—is this: Don’t see your loneliness as a lack of love or a personal flaw. See it as a spiritual seal. You are a vessel reserved for God’s use, and that kind of consecration comes with a beautiful, heavy, and often lonely price. Lean into the one who called you. He is your deepest connection, and He will never leave the fight you’ve been called to fight.

​Do you relate to the feeling of having a “bigg will” that no one around you understands? Share your thoughts below!